Effective September 01, 2026: 

I will be taking a step back from Social Media.

I had to accept something and really be honest with myself. 

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The Books - MY LIFE STORY - that is where my passion is and that is what should be getting all my attention.

(We are now planning the Kickstarter to include all 6 books in the series)

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I have been caught up on this:
"If They Only Knew How Their Behavior Hurt Me - SURELY They Would Choose To Act Differently".

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It's a thing in my life -

and I have ALWAYS been wrong in this regard.

I've been using social media -

hoping to offer explanations that will lead people I cared for in life,

TO MAKE DIFFERENT CHOICES

-and-

TO OWN THEIR ACTIONS

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People will only show up for you on the level they can.

I underestimated how people will choose to ignore actions they aren't proud of -

rather than learn why they behave that way in the first place.

 

I underestimated the ignorance believing that if people were aware of behaviors which are defined 'Abusive',

They would make a choice to NOT BEHAVE that way. 

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I believed they would make different choices - but statistically?

People don't care enough how they affect others - or worse? They are aware of the abuses and have no desire to change.

 

Go Figure - it's part of the  cycle of abuse. 

Textbook Really...​

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I saw my efforts on social media and live streaming  as trying to provide that opportunity- to make a different choice,

to people who know they have hurt others and want to change.

 

I thought it may lead to HEALTHY communication;

HEALTHY behaviors;

HEALTHY understanding

and HEALTHY compromises

- not to mention-

HEALTHY healing.

(vs pushing to move past something in the broken ways it's worked for me - and others in the past).

I thought that sharing my knowledge would allow possible growth for others

who have experienced pain similar to mine. 

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HARD TRUTH:

People - most often would rather ignore and justify their hurtful behaviors

than learn to understand how those behaviors are hurtful and choose to make different choices. 

You can't educate anyone to have true care and empathy

- which is what it takes to want to understand  how your behaviors have impacted another human-

especially in regards to emotional abuse. 

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A person not willing to understand how their behaviors have been abusive and how it has affected those they interact with? 

ARE MAKING CHOICES

-AND-
Will KEEP ACTING THE SAME WAY. 

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Most times? People who hurt you are not going to make a choice to HEAR you. 

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They will be defensive.
They will blame you for how you react to their actions without ever even CARING to understand how those actions have affected you. 
They will convince themselves of ALL kinds of things by lying to themselves,

failing to recognize the basic respect of HEALTHY communincation

- and instead choose to twist things in their own mind to fit and feel comfortable. 

 

TRUE HEALING AND CHANGE IS

UNCOMFORTABLE

My content was never going to convince a dismissive avoidant or narcissist to CHANGE or CARE. 

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I don't need to educate the people who are actually WANTING to heal- there is a lot of that on the web.

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I was creating the content I have been

because I was HOPEFUL people in my life would WAKE UP and make different choices. 

My Books?

YES- I'm a victim. 
YES- I'm a survivor. 

I'm done believing that I can help or change anything in this world

- but -

writing my life story will allow such immense healing for me PERSONALLY. 

 

Not to mention it's a life dream.

 

It's the only thing worth my attention right now - or at least the greatest priority. 

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I can't be positive or hopeful that I can change the life of someone because my content has inspired someone who may be exhibiting

TOXIC - HURTFUL behaviors - to stop being TOXIC AND HURTFUL. 

 

That is highly unlikely.

Most of the time? I realize now -

either people are aware how their actions affect those they claim to 'care for'

and intend the reactions to their behavior? 
(Choosing to continue to inflict abuse)

Or they just don't ACTUALLY CARE -if they did?

They would WANT to stop hurting others.

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Wrapping my head around the idea that every abusive relationship? 

Is HIGHLY unlikely to be 'accidental' - even if people don't realize how their behaviors

may actually affect others?

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People will statistically NOT make a choice to try and understand that,

and then make different choices.

 

Instead, they justify themselves and tell themselves whatever makes them feel better

-I've learned that in the last 3 years.

My books? That's where it has to start  for me.

So I can find my people - the ones who have been  broken, abused, traumatized, and left broken hearted because someone in their life?

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Simply chose not to learn - and then make choices - that would stop hurting people in general.

I learned and studied both sides of all the damage I have done - 
And the damage others have done to me. 

I need to focus on my books because I'd rather tell my story -

than try to educate people that will statistically? 

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Hardly even exist.

I will be only active here - on the website.

Keep an eye open for this to be converted to a blog- and I will be building a resource page.

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No matter where in the process you are at?

If you are a SELF-IMPROVING;

SELF-SEEKING;

SURVIVOR

of Emotional Abuse; Toxic Relationships;

Narcissistic Abuse; CPTSD or complex trauma?

 

I'll build you a library of what I know can help. 

And when you're ready? I'll be here - on Siren-Stories ready & willing to hear YOUR story,

because an understanding ear? Is what someone surviving and truly healing  needs more than

ANYTHING, and in my experience- that's the hardest thing to find.

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That's the brand I want to build - not a social media library that anyone can make.

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A place where I can tell my story - and provide people who are actively looking to self-improve & truly heal:

a safe place without judgment to share their process.

♥Andromeda